In which we come to terms

The last couple of posts make me sound like an old curmudgeon. I try not to be.

Too many people have died this year. When you’re in your 20s still, you don’t expect people your own age, people you know, to go. A dead friend comes at you like a kick to the ribs.

In the past six months, two people I got to know from the Sinister mailing list have died suddenly and unexpectedly, in very different ways. The second death was yesterday: sudden, unexpected heart failure. We hadn’t been in touch for a couple of years, but even so to know she’s gone was a sudden, nasty shock. I keep thinking of all the greetings and apologies that I should have said, but didn’t.

I’m not sure that I should be posting this picture – I’m not sure that it’s what she would have wanted. I want to show you it, though, because I think it shows what a lovely, lively person she was.


Rest in peace, Amy.

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3 comments on “Sudden”

  1. Marcello Carlin says:

    and you take care too. stay with us. a lot of people love you. myself among them.

    actually, everybody take complete and utter care of yourselves. that includes me.

    mc xx

  2. Daniel says:

    Death is simply one of our many boundaries. It’s supposed to be befuddling, or—since that kind of makes it sound like there’s a design to things—it’s best that it’s befuddling. It suits to motivate us, fearful as we are of the foreign and sublime.

    I lost my daughter a little over a month ago, and I’ve found that it meant something fairly different than I thought it would. I can’t quite explain it, ponderous though I’ve been about just how to, even if only to myself; but it’s not what I’d been impressed to think it would be.

    Be well.

  3. tulpje says:

    just sad… in so many ways… and so many memories.

    but yes, do take good care

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